What would you do if your son was gay?

[hawkish]

There would be nothing you could "do" only how you would react to being told

I think no father is prepared for when their children start saying adult things. Noone wants to think of their kids having sex of any kind now do they? That and even though homosexuality is more accepted in society than ever before I dont think we are at the stage where we subconciously balance up the possibillity

Imagine the expecting mum and doting father-to-be are choosing names ,then wonder if their kids will turn out gay or straight in later life, It dosent happen. The expectation is that they will be straight and the initial reaction to the news that it is otherwise, in most cases could be percived as a bad initial reaction.

The fact is that this thread started yesterday and now has over 1000 views and climbing. Ill assume this is traffic from good old google. If you think of the proportion of people wanting to 'come out' in the world in relation to the odds of the ones who are having googled AND and clicked on us - then we can deduce that there is a lot of homosexuals in the world wanting to come out.

Whatever your view on it, as a father you cant guess what your immediate reaction will be - but you can be confident that a loving parent will soon support their child as before. After all any good parents only want the best for their kids and sexual preference is no longer a right or wrong thing to do. When it comes down it love is love however you make it

 

[Rodbouy]

Personally I couldn’t care if my son or daughter was gay, as long as they are healthy. Yes we probably all want the “Perfect Family” Kids, Grandkids Great grand kids etc etc. But in life it doesn’t always work that way.


Me and my partner Mrs Rodders always wanted kids and wee delighted when Reece was coming along and I can remember thing I hope he has all his fingers or anything superficial wrong. But as some of you know he was born asleep and now think back at how insignificant stuff like that is.


So basically they are who they are and will always be loved as they are your children.

 

[stihl260]

To put a slightly different angle on this and how parents react and deal with their childrens behaviour.
When you child is born its the most magical moment in your life!
Despite the fact that i did not want children!
You watch your children grow, learn to talk, their first steps.
Teach them to ride a bike even.
I have 2 boys and both of them are healthy.
The eldest one is now 11 and likes nothing more than spending time with me when i go out on private jobs and i let him help.
If you ask him what he wants to do in life, its the same as me.
That may change and i will happy for him and support him whatever his choices.
I'm well aware that i and his mother are roll models to our children and i would like to think that i have shown them to not to judge people and discriminate just because of their colour, religion, ethnic background etc.
Its more to do with understanding that people are different and fear of that difference can lead to fear and in the end non social understanding.
I have worked closely with the Muslim community as a contractor and i was within their community the day after the London bombings.
It opened my eyes to how the Muslims were worried and cared about what i thought and how my opinion of their culture might change.
I have shown my own children to engage with other cultures and understand them.
In the same way that if you decide that you hate gays, then your children wil pick up on this and in the event that they may have worries or fears about their own sexuality , they will live in fear of taliking to you about it!
My youngest son who is 7 has Behavioural problems and over the years has cost me a fortune in damaging our home and belongings.
We have had help from the GP, specialist wtc and are nearly there in relation to diagnoses that he has a neorological disorder.
The chances are he has Dyspraxia and other associated disorderes !
Its been a long road and at times he has made mine and my wifes life a living hell!
But i do not love him any less as he is my son and those special moments together, although they are few (outway the bad)!
You will do anything for your children and love them regardless.
So if either of my sons feel the need to talk to me about anything that causes them worry, i would like to feel that i would be there for them.
Even if that neans they decide that they are gay, so long as they are happy, then thats enough for me.

 

[Dazza]

There's nothing you can do, so just be happy, and show the little'uns to be happy. Prejudice solves nothing, whether it's gay, black, Muslims, religion, fat, thin, whatever.

Only thing they need to know is which football team to despise. The rest they can have a fully open mind for.

 

[Rodbouy]

Only thing they need to know is which football team to despise.

Exactly

 

[witchy]

I was 18 when my 12 year old Daughter told me she was pregnant, she gave birth to a 3 year old Homosexual.

Spare a thought for me!

 

[Explosivo]

buy him a subscription to gay monthly

 

[cyberclog]

Respect him like you expect him to respect you, Me and my wife are so lucky to have 2 beautiful daughters and listening to some of the guys on here makes me want to hope that they turn out gay, so they don't have to put up with narrow minded blokes like some of them on here, Whats more important the happiness of your children or just yourself.