A couple of people have asked me to give a bit more information about NLP and how it works. I am a Master Practitioner in NLP and a Practitioner in Time Line Therapy and Hypnotherapy. It isn't my day job, just an interest I had which I have studied and qualified in.
It is a science and many of the elements we are taught are now gaining some recognition from latest research in Quantum Physics and greater study of the heart, mind body connections. There are a number of presuppositions we have when working with clients using NLP - I won't bore you with them all but some useful ones are as follows:
People are not their behaviours (accept the person, change the behaviour)
The Map is not the territory (the words we use are NOT the event or the item they represent)
You are in charge of your mind and therefore your results
There is ONLY feedback (there is no failure, only feedback)
Respect for the other person's model of the world
Essentially, when I am working with a client, if I don't believe they can change then they won't believe it either. It is essential to create rapport with the client before starting any work with them. Rapport is that thing which we seek out in others - we like people who are like ourselves. When you meet someone, it doesn't usually take long if you feel comfortable with them for you to start saying things like 'I did that too' or ' I went there' etc.
If you establish really strong rapport by mirroring behaviours, matching tones of voice and gestures, it becomes possible to lead the person by introducing things like crossing of legs. Not useful in itself but you can see that would make someone more susceptible to suggestion using hypnotic language patterns.
We all store our memories in different ways but they do tend to follow a trend which can be identified by watching a persons eyes when you ask them questions. try this on someone:
Ask them what colour their bedroom was when they were young - they will usually look up to the right as they face you, or up to the left. If you then ask what would your room have looked like if it was pright pink with black dots (or some other unlikely colour combination) they will usually look up to the left, or up to the right. You can also test for audio recall and construct, and kinestetic (where we feel) and self talk. By using the above tests it is possible to determine a persons strategy in a number of situations. For example a compulsive shopper may go into a shop, see something and buy it without any check for 'do I need this?' This is why you will often find the most eye catching fashion at the top of the escalators in shops where it is instantly seen.
It is widely believed that dyslexics are not poor spellers but that they spell with a poor strategy. Most of us spell by visualising the word, many dyslexics try to spell using feelings rather than the visual. It is possible to change strategies and much work has been done with dyslexics to the extent they could spell backwards and forwards quite quickly one their strategy was changed.
Most phobias are created during the age of 0 - 7 years. During those years the mind doesn't know enough to put things in context so what would seem midly scary at age 17 could be truly terrifying at age 5. For that 5 year old, the next time something similar happens, the association goes back to the first event and the negative feeling gets worse with each future event until the person can't even think about the event! These behaviours can be changed.
Would people like to know more or have I already bored/confused you?
Let me have some feedback or maybe specific questions about things which are troubling you - pm me if it something you don't feel comfortable sharing. I may be able to give you some techniques which will help.
It is a science and many of the elements we are taught are now gaining some recognition from latest research in Quantum Physics and greater study of the heart, mind body connections. There are a number of presuppositions we have when working with clients using NLP - I won't bore you with them all but some useful ones are as follows:
People are not their behaviours (accept the person, change the behaviour)
The Map is not the territory (the words we use are NOT the event or the item they represent)
You are in charge of your mind and therefore your results
There is ONLY feedback (there is no failure, only feedback)
Respect for the other person's model of the world
Essentially, when I am working with a client, if I don't believe they can change then they won't believe it either. It is essential to create rapport with the client before starting any work with them. Rapport is that thing which we seek out in others - we like people who are like ourselves. When you meet someone, it doesn't usually take long if you feel comfortable with them for you to start saying things like 'I did that too' or ' I went there' etc.
If you establish really strong rapport by mirroring behaviours, matching tones of voice and gestures, it becomes possible to lead the person by introducing things like crossing of legs. Not useful in itself but you can see that would make someone more susceptible to suggestion using hypnotic language patterns.
We all store our memories in different ways but they do tend to follow a trend which can be identified by watching a persons eyes when you ask them questions. try this on someone:
Ask them what colour their bedroom was when they were young - they will usually look up to the right as they face you, or up to the left. If you then ask what would your room have looked like if it was pright pink with black dots (or some other unlikely colour combination) they will usually look up to the left, or up to the right. You can also test for audio recall and construct, and kinestetic (where we feel) and self talk. By using the above tests it is possible to determine a persons strategy in a number of situations. For example a compulsive shopper may go into a shop, see something and buy it without any check for 'do I need this?' This is why you will often find the most eye catching fashion at the top of the escalators in shops where it is instantly seen.
It is widely believed that dyslexics are not poor spellers but that they spell with a poor strategy. Most of us spell by visualising the word, many dyslexics try to spell using feelings rather than the visual. It is possible to change strategies and much work has been done with dyslexics to the extent they could spell backwards and forwards quite quickly one their strategy was changed.
Most phobias are created during the age of 0 - 7 years. During those years the mind doesn't know enough to put things in context so what would seem midly scary at age 17 could be truly terrifying at age 5. For that 5 year old, the next time something similar happens, the association goes back to the first event and the negative feeling gets worse with each future event until the person can't even think about the event! These behaviours can be changed.
Would people like to know more or have I already bored/confused you?
Let me have some feedback or maybe specific questions about things which are troubling you - pm me if it something you don't feel comfortable sharing. I may be able to give you some techniques which will help.