jammoboss
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Well I have come out of a 6 year relationship with the mother of our child. Its been about 6 weeks now since I left. Here's my story:
A few months back I noticed my feelings for her weren't as strong as they use to be and we seemed more distant, sex life had almost disappeared but we still kissed/cuddled/hugs. Like any couple there was a good few arguments. I left in the end of December last year but got back together in January. In April I thought a holiday might help, there was on and off between us leading up to the holiday in June.
The holiday made it feel like the first few months of our relationship and I loved every second of being with her and my son until we got back home. Within weeks of being back I started thinking "I cant stay here anymore I am not happy". Then at the beginning of August she rang me crying saying we need to talk.
When I got back home she said "I cant be with you anymore, I am sorry. I know this might sound bad but I found a big relief when she said that and told her I haven't been happy in months. I left that night and popped back and for to cellect my stuff.
Now she is a good mum and I know she would never stop me seeing my son, at the moment we've agreed on a sat-sun for me to have him and in the school holiday (he's 4 by the way).
It was all going great we still had a few chats via facebook but then my son was starting his first day in reception class, so I decide I wanted to be there which she agreed, that day we both went and after dropping him off went for a coffee and a drive and had a laugh (like the old days). We then picked him up from school together and the most hurtful thing came out of his mouth "are you and mummy back together", she burst out crying and my eyes watered. I dropped her off and went home.
Even though he is only 4 it has effected him as she has txt me saying he's in his room crying saying he misses daddy. It hurts not being with him everyday like I used to be.
Recently I put old pics up on facebook of my clubbing years and some exs were in there, that's when it started getting nasty with her comments, arguments etc so I decided to remove her and only contact her if it concerned my son.
What's puzzling me is I am really missing her, we were so much alike, we both admitted we love each offer and will always have feelings deep down but were not in love, I wish I could have the feeling I had at the beginning. Has anyone had this happen to them?
So many friends have said you should go back and try again and work things out or go to counselling but I really don't know what to do. Am I fooling myself and its just I miss my son?
The other thing I want to know is has anyone had trouble regarding seeing there child after a split with the mum? I know she would never stop me but I have not gone to citizens advice to find out were I stand because if she meets someone else and is influenced by them she could give me trouble.
sorry about the life story lol
thanks
A few months back I noticed my feelings for her weren't as strong as they use to be and we seemed more distant, sex life had almost disappeared but we still kissed/cuddled/hugs. Like any couple there was a good few arguments. I left in the end of December last year but got back together in January. In April I thought a holiday might help, there was on and off between us leading up to the holiday in June.
The holiday made it feel like the first few months of our relationship and I loved every second of being with her and my son until we got back home. Within weeks of being back I started thinking "I cant stay here anymore I am not happy". Then at the beginning of August she rang me crying saying we need to talk.
When I got back home she said "I cant be with you anymore, I am sorry. I know this might sound bad but I found a big relief when she said that and told her I haven't been happy in months. I left that night and popped back and for to cellect my stuff.
Now she is a good mum and I know she would never stop me seeing my son, at the moment we've agreed on a sat-sun for me to have him and in the school holiday (he's 4 by the way).
It was all going great we still had a few chats via facebook but then my son was starting his first day in reception class, so I decide I wanted to be there which she agreed, that day we both went and after dropping him off went for a coffee and a drive and had a laugh (like the old days). We then picked him up from school together and the most hurtful thing came out of his mouth "are you and mummy back together", she burst out crying and my eyes watered. I dropped her off and went home.
Even though he is only 4 it has effected him as she has txt me saying he's in his room crying saying he misses daddy. It hurts not being with him everyday like I used to be.
Recently I put old pics up on facebook of my clubbing years and some exs were in there, that's when it started getting nasty with her comments, arguments etc so I decided to remove her and only contact her if it concerned my son.
What's puzzling me is I am really missing her, we were so much alike, we both admitted we love each offer and will always have feelings deep down but were not in love, I wish I could have the feeling I had at the beginning. Has anyone had this happen to them?
So many friends have said you should go back and try again and work things out or go to counselling but I really don't know what to do. Am I fooling myself and its just I miss my son?
The other thing I want to know is has anyone had trouble regarding seeing there child after a split with the mum? I know she would never stop me but I have not gone to citizens advice to find out were I stand because if she meets someone else and is influenced by them she could give me trouble.
sorry about the life story lol
thanks