yeehawwww, got it working, ( mostly pure luck and perseverance )
in the end I all but gave up and it was heading for the bin...
I decided to take it apart and see if there was anything obvious, there wasn't
so I just got some alchohol wipes and gave the circuit board a good clean
I then just connected the circuit board to the pc to see and hey presto it flashed
only problem was the image I used had a pin in and I didn't know it
I eventually got brave enough to reflash again and it worked fine again.
just plugged the remote sensor to the board and hooked up to the TV, everything scanned in and working fine.
put the box back together and tried again, shite, back to square one, nothing working.
screwed the board out again and hey presto, everything fine again
now think that something is shorting out on the board when it is screwed back into the housing
so got it back together with one screw and some cellotape and it is working fine, not a bother
as I say, more luck and perseverance than brains, but alls weel that ends well,
thanks to all that helped and as usual we all learn something along the way . . . . . ..