jammoboss
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Well i don’t know if my first court appearance went well or bad?? The cafcass officer was 45 minutes late, me and the ex with the cafcass officer had arguments whilst i was trying to stay carm but she was denying things i had evidence on.
I feel let down a bit by the cafcass officer, she said all that matters is my sons wellbeing yet when I’m giving the evidence on my cafcass telephone interview she seemed to try and get of that subject. Well my ex also made a few errors with her saying she got caught shoplifting to the value of £800 and was given 100 hours community service which was actually 200 hours and she was lucky to get that the magistrates said. She also said that my son was not present even though she got caught with the clothes in his pram when he was there and the police took her with my (2 year old at the time) which I’m hoping should be on the police records. She did come back saying i was there and helping her but i know she was out with her cousin who has been arrested for shoplifting so many times.
Well she told the cafcass she stopped me seeing him because i was drilling stuff about her and her new bf into his head (total c**p), i explained the real reason. She accused me of saying things to my son when i went to visit him in his school like "you’re going to be living with daddy soon", "has mummy hit you", i knew she would do it so i recorded the 11 minutes from the point of entering the building to leaving. Yet her solicitor said contact ended on the 21 July after that incident even though i got a txt of her on the 10 June saying "you’re not seeing him no more, take me to court".
During the meeting she demanded i have supervised visits for an hour but the officer said i don’t see the need for that as no allegation on cruelty have been given and i should get 2 hours unsupervised visit in the community area of the family centre. Well my solicitor went to her solicitor for about 10 minutes to come back and say "she has agreed on 4 hours every Saturday, unsupervised, so i can take him out"
I’ve gone from being in my sons life 24/7 for four and a half years. Since the split its been then 3 days 2 nights and sometimes more if she decided to go to Westbury jail to see her now ex-boyfriend.
Do you think this is fair four hours a week for someone who has done nothing and the only accusation against me is saying i say stuff to my son, which i don’t. I know it’s only the first part and i was told the full report will be in 8-10 weeks, end of September but it’s so unfair on dads.
Oh and even though they applied for the police records on the 7th July they still never arrived in time.
I feel let down a bit by the cafcass officer, she said all that matters is my sons wellbeing yet when I’m giving the evidence on my cafcass telephone interview she seemed to try and get of that subject. Well my ex also made a few errors with her saying she got caught shoplifting to the value of £800 and was given 100 hours community service which was actually 200 hours and she was lucky to get that the magistrates said. She also said that my son was not present even though she got caught with the clothes in his pram when he was there and the police took her with my (2 year old at the time) which I’m hoping should be on the police records. She did come back saying i was there and helping her but i know she was out with her cousin who has been arrested for shoplifting so many times.
Well she told the cafcass she stopped me seeing him because i was drilling stuff about her and her new bf into his head (total c**p), i explained the real reason. She accused me of saying things to my son when i went to visit him in his school like "you’re going to be living with daddy soon", "has mummy hit you", i knew she would do it so i recorded the 11 minutes from the point of entering the building to leaving. Yet her solicitor said contact ended on the 21 July after that incident even though i got a txt of her on the 10 June saying "you’re not seeing him no more, take me to court".
During the meeting she demanded i have supervised visits for an hour but the officer said i don’t see the need for that as no allegation on cruelty have been given and i should get 2 hours unsupervised visit in the community area of the family centre. Well my solicitor went to her solicitor for about 10 minutes to come back and say "she has agreed on 4 hours every Saturday, unsupervised, so i can take him out"
I’ve gone from being in my sons life 24/7 for four and a half years. Since the split its been then 3 days 2 nights and sometimes more if she decided to go to Westbury jail to see her now ex-boyfriend.
Do you think this is fair four hours a week for someone who has done nothing and the only accusation against me is saying i say stuff to my son, which i don’t. I know it’s only the first part and i was told the full report will be in 8-10 weeks, end of September but it’s so unfair on dads.
Oh and even though they applied for the police records on the 7th July they still never arrived in time.