i think it must just have been a bad wad file. all i remember was being on 3.2E, then i installed homebrew channel again.....again, don't ask me why LOL, then on option it asked me if i wanted to install DVDX and bootmii, so i did, then at same time i thought sod it, lets make a backup of my nand. so i did.
then i ran trucha bug restorer, loaded the ios36, downgraded the ios15, loaded the ios15, selected ios36, patched all 3 options, then loaded ios36 and restored ios15.
next i ran cios38 r14, and installed that, and this next bit is where i think it got me, i updated to 4.1E using the firmware updater in HBC, let it do it's stuff which took about 10 mins.
once this was done load wad manager and installed ios60patched.wad
never installed preloader as i already had it installed (but maybe i should have done to be on safe side)
reinstalled the wads ios38, ios53, and ios55.
restart wii, black screen with 4.1(EUR) in bottom right corner
nooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!