sexless relationship - what do i do?

HibbyDave

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What was the sex in your relationship like before she got pregnant?

Sex for women starts in their minds you know, we're not the same as men. And maybe she feels embarrassed about the changes to her body after giving birth, maybe she just doesn't feel sexy anymore. What do you do to show her affection other times, do you cuddle her, tell her she looks great, pay her attention etc to make her feel like a desirable woman, or do you basically ignore her physically unless you are looking for a shag?

She could also be uptight cos she is afraid the child is gonna wake up etc, a lot of mums with small children are like that.

Also i notice you expect oral, but you don't reciprocate, amazing how some blokes think like that!

If she has a real issue with muscle tone after giving birth there are a number of things that can be done. You can buy weights called vaginal cones Vaginal cones or she can ask her doctor to recommend her to a gynacologist who may advise her to have an operation if she has had a prolapse or suffers from stress incontinence. I don't know if the NHS would pay if its purely to tighten things up for your sexual pleasure, but there is an op for that, i think it's called Fenton's procedure. But the fact is if she has problems after giving birth you complaining about how it affects your sexual pleasure is really gonna make her feel even more embarrassed and worse about her body, its a vicious circle.

There is also an instructional film called 'The Joy of Sex' you will prob find a torrent somewhere.

Good shout there Eva, I can highly recommend this film, I've seen myself a few times (10,001)

if you need a copy pm Munkey, that's where I got mine.


:Cheers:
 

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sex may SEEM like a big part but it's not the be all and end all. if you love her and find your family life with her fulfilling, then maybe it's you that needs to think about your attitude.

i'm sure many single people will envy your situation as well people who have been in that situation and now don't have someone to share their lives with. it's a cliché but the grass always looks greener on the other side - till u get there.

don't lose what you have.
 

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Yes but what about your choice of words.

If this was worded better, I think a lot of this would not have happened and probably would have had a better response as well
 

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Rght well from a womens point of view you shound like a very selfish man. If some bloke wasnt giving me any plesure id lay there like a log to and hope he got the hint to maybe step it up a notch in foreplay department.
Did she have stitches after she had the baby she may still have a lot of pain in that area but she may be to scared to say for fear of looking silly.
Has she given a lot of oral sex maybe she doesnt know how to do it instead of laying on your back being selfish do you tell her what you like ? she may be thinking shes doing it correctly for all you know.

How does she perform after a few drinks inside her, alot of women are just to afraid to open up in the bedroom and think sex is just for making babies, she might just have yourself a real go'er if you pull your head out of your arse long enough to try a few things out.

So from a womens point of view id tell you to jog on and keep wanking cause if i had a fella that was gonna openly dicuss my sex life with a bunch of blokes hes never met before talking to me first about Our problem then his juice is not really worth the squeeze is it
 

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2and post removed??????? 1st may of see like a joke but every point i made was true
Now to remove the 2and when i said just about every this the post above me siad!!
Sort it out
 

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Ive removed lots of posts form this thread that I thought wasn't advice or maybe worded that offence could be taken

Ive also left loads that offer good advice and maybe offer some truth that are worded more appropriate

some were removed because they contained quotes

perhaps your removed post(s) fall into one of those categories ?
 

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Ive removed lots of posts form this thread that I thought wasn't advice or maybe worded that offence could be taken

Ive also left loads that offer good advice and maybe offer some truth that are worded more appropriate

some were removed because they contained quotes

perhaps your removed post(s) fall into one of those categories ?

Thanks m8
Got a lot of respect for you telling me that as other mod's on other forum would not have the ball's to own up + if they did they were total c*ck's about it!!

But the tampon and the sea fishing weights do work!!!
That's what all the SEX Worker's use!!

And you dont think me saying his lass might have postnatal depression
is a good thing to say!!
It might help him from been a selfish tw*t
she may no like her body so much so it puts her off sex
and she may kill her self if he push's her to much??
and he did not understand what the lass is going throw
BECAUSE A WIFE KILLED HER SELF AND HER TWO KID'S BECAUSE SHE HAD POSTNATAL DEPRESSION!! UP HERE 3/4YEARS BACK!!
yes its not nice to read about but thing's like that happen all the time and just think if she did do the killing bit how would we all feel!!
+ HOW WOULD HE FEEL???????????

Maybe get the op to look at "reword" his post's as saying his lass has a baggy Fan
Will get some people's back's up!!!
 

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Thanks m8
Got a lot of respect for you telling me that as other mod's on other forum would not have the ball's to own up + if they did they were total c*ck's about it!!

Maybe get the op to look at "reword" his post's as saying his lass has a baggy Fan
Will get some people's back's up!!!

your welcome mate :)

I must admit the baggy bit did raise my eyebrows lol
 

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hahaha
this post started fair serious ,... so i answered it seriously,
but now its just got silly ....
its actually 1 of the funniest threads i ever saw ....its deffo in my top 5 lol
 

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this DW or jezza kyle forum???

ffs in open forum, get a fleshlite or something.
 

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I can't believe you can make some of the comments you have made about this girl.
Sex is a two way street and as has been said already, have you looked at yourself in respect to the bedroom department.
Lots of things can affect the sexual relationship after childbirth as has been pointed out above, but obviously you are the selfish one who thinks of himself, i suggest a hand job would be your best answer then you can only blame yourself.
Talking, experimenting ( with agreement of both partners ), sex toys, DVD's and relaxing environment seem to be good places to start.
Do you return the pleasure like you receive in the oral sex department or is it only your own Vuvazela the gets blown.
You need to sort your life out for the sake of the relationship and the child.
 

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not sure if anyone mentioned it yet, but get yourself satellite tv. real adult channels to help if you have a higher sex drive, but they also help hundreds of thousands of couples all over europe. A great hobby to give you something to do, but a great addition to a couples sex life :)
 

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Keep on with teaching her the basics mate but if you fail to manage it alone well do a sweep on here for some weekly training sessions with various members. By the time she gets to mozr and napster her training should be near complete.
 

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Fook me op you sound like that geordie Tw4t that used to frequent here.
He thought he was Gods gift as well. I hope your girl reads this thread m8 and finds out what kind of rat (sorry John) you really are.
How can you say you love some one and post on the net what you have,
I really do hope this is a wind up thread for your girls sake. She deserves better than you.
 

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This post is getting more and more like a soap opera. It is now out of hand I suggest you write to some agony aunt or uncle and tell them your problems.I myself think you should seriously take up a hobby before you go blind and leave the poor girl alone she is obviously to good for you.:SSEXY:
 

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Good shout there Eva, I can highly recommend this film, I've seen myself a few times (10,001)

if you need a copy pm Munkey, that's where I got mine.


:Cheers:

A asked him for it Dave and got his 3hr wedding video instead,, Munkey in lycra dancing to "cant touch this" is enough to convert any guy into a monk.

A was convinced this was a wind up and if a had sexual problems a don't think a would have posted it in a hack forum as you are likely to get this kinda response.
[ame=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sXit0FTxa1U]YouTube - Billy Connolly ~ Womens demands[/ame]


It takes time, ky jelly, body chocolate, Anne Summers, frey bentos pies, whips, public places, porn, Barry White, Alchohol, suprise element, adventure, role play, respect, fun, love, trust and a shed load of other things that make up a relationship.

Get a babysitter like your folks to take thee wee one for the night and give your partner the night of "HER" life.
Get some flowers "not the Asda £4.99 ones) and some expensive chocolates to start with.
Be cool, women like a guy taking the lead with a bit of confidence.
Take her to a restraunt that cooks her favourite food and splash out on the wine and listen to she says. (its amazing what you can learn about your better half after a few large ones)
After dinner go to a club or pub that she likes and consume a few more large ones.
The rest is up to you.......

NEXT.....
 

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A asked him for it Dave and got his 3hr wedding video instead,, Munkey in lycra dancing to "cant touch this" is enough to convert any guy into a monk.

A was convinced this was a wind up and if a had sexual problems a don't think a would have posted it in a hack forum as you are likely to get this kinda response.
YouTube - Billy Connolly ~ Womens demands


It takes time, ky jelly, body chocolate, Anne Summers, frey bentos pies, whips, public places, porn, Barry White, Alchohol, suprise element, adventure, role play, respect, fun, love, trust and a shed load of other things that make up a relationship.

Get a babysitter like your folks to take thee wee one for the night and give your partner the night of "HER" life.
Get some flowers "not the Asda £4.99 ones) and some expensive chocolates to start with.
Be cool, women like a guy taking the lead with a bit of confidence.
Take her to a restraunt that cooks her favourite food and splash out on the wine and listen to she says. (its amazing what you can learn about your better half after a few large ones)
After dinner go to a club or pub that she likes and consume a few more large ones.
The rest is up to you.......

NEXT.....

This is probably of to higher request for a bloke like this who can post such derogatory remarks on line about the mother of his child, probably end up with fish n chips (take away) can a strongbow and wam bam thank you mam ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ and the poor girl will be lay there waiting for the finale
 

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This is probably of to higher request for a bloke like this who can post such derogatory remarks on line about the mother of his child, probably end up with fish n chips (take away) can a strongbow and wam bam thank you mam ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ and the poor girl will be lay there waiting for the finale

He he he,,tbh Stevie a just read his first post and didn't see the other one about baggy fannies.
What a fookin hideous thing to say about your partner and still have the cheek to say you love her.
Life must be hard being perfect,, some guys are just feckin clueless....
 
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